Vision

When you find yourself falling in love with someone you also find yourself wondering about every aspect of your life and theirs. If you are lucky enough to grow up together then for the most part you know how the other person may think and feel about different areas of life. When you don't have that luxury then your whole life turns upside down.So many times you can find your very essence hurting because you just cant seem to understand why they act the way they do. Should you be together more or apart more? How about time with friends and family? Should they be with you? How do you know to include them or exclude them? How do you know when you should be included or excluded? Why the Hell is this dating and falling in love thing so hard? It shouldn't be! Love is suppose to be easy and something that makes your heart over fill with so much happiness. You smile when being reminded of them. Your heart skips a beat just to hear their name but then why does it sometimes become such a mess so easily? If there is so much joy in loving someone then where does the pain and confusion come from. Why can one person get so bent out of shape simply because sometimes things don't go the way they wanted and they feel hurt. They feel hurt because there is no handbook on how to understand someone else's vision! It is a learning process that one has to endure in order to love another. Every one is different and that's the way we are suppose to be. However, when you love someone you have to be patient and get to know their differences and their likenesses to your own. If you truly love someone then you have to learn to accept them for everything about them not just the parts we love or can tolerate. We have to understand that all of us have bad and good days and that's what makes us a whole person. For some of us its getting to know the others way of thinking. How much space do they need to themselves? How much of me can they handle at any given time? How much of me loving them can they take before I scare them and make them feel smothered or the opposite and they back off because they think I don't love them at all? Love may be a beautiful thing but it can easily destroy a relationship because of lack of communication and the desire to make something work. People are just as different as one house to the next is. From the paint jobs, the material used to build them and the years of wear and tear. Family who raise each of us are different from their cultures as a whole to what we eat, what we watch on television, read, listen to on the radio or even how we communicate. Its these differences and the way we tolerate them or learn to use them to adapt in the world around us that makes us learn to and learn how to love another person. Our vision is different one from the other and its our visions of how we see loving someone special in our lives that determines if we can compromise with the one that we fall in love with. Life is not always easy when we are in love. Its just usually more fulfilled and manageable because a true love becomes a single love shared by two not held by just one!