We can
often find ourselves living in a world of Confusion. One in which
there are days that we just feel as if the weight of the world is on
our shoulders. So many decisions and questions as to how to choose
what move to make next in order to make our lives complete. We can
become lost in our thoughts and our fears. Its easy for us to get
caught up in the making of these choices, or decisions as some of us
call them. We never see how they are shaping and molding us. They
actually are a form of teaching us how to live and be productive in
our day to day lives. A way for us to learn from our mistakes and our
victories. A sort of history lesson in the making.
Although,
Its not always about the right or wrong decisions that we make. Its
more about the discovery of us. Finding out what makes us tick?
Finding out what we have learned from those around us who have been
our mentors. How did they handle life's “DECISIONS”? What did we
live and learn from those who set our examples. The tools that we are
given quite definitely determine how we handle our challenges in our
lives.
Now, with
all this being said and discovery of what makes us.....US..I need you
to think outside of the box for a moment. Think beyond ourselves and
our history of our lives and our decision making skills. I want you
to think of all those people, adults and children who don't come from
some of the places that have good tools. Places where they fight
battles that are more built on survival skills instead of daily
routines. Their lives are in a place where one sometimes experiences
what they call “fight or flight.” These tools are built on
defense and offense. Where children learn to be adults way before
they learn about having a right to make a decision. Their decisions
are made more on protecting themselves from the immediate threats not
so much on future threats or goals for their lives. Some of these
children don't even realize that they have choices or that they can
actually make decisions of who or what they want to be in their
lives. They only know that their instincts tell them to protect
themselves and to make the decisions that keep them and others around
them safe.
Now,
these are the tools that some of our children are given. These
children become adults in our world who carry these tools into their
futures because this way of life is the only way that they have ever
known. Its what they use to make their decisions not only for
themselves but they teach them to the next generation. We all share
our coping skills with the next generation that follows us. Either by
what our children see us do or by what we purposely teach them. The
purpose of this discussion is not to judge anyone. Its more about
trying to remind us that while we all are responsible for the
decisions that we make, we should not judge ourselves or the person
next to us so harshly on the rights or wrongs. We react to living
life with the tools that we have been giving. We can learn to sharpen
those tools, however; we have to first realize that making
“DECISIONS” in our lives is actually a God given Gift. Once we
see it as a gift then its up to us to learn to appreciate our
challenges. We can all adapt and learn but its a lot easier to help
someone grow in a better direction then to be the one to make them
think that they are stuck where they are. Watch your words and your
actions and try to become part of the solution for change. Its just
very possible that if you cant see the need for the compromise and
your assistance for changing the situation....then maybe your the one
that needs to reconsider what tools you are actually sharing in your
life...Remember, think outside the box...Life is worth living to the
fullest! So live a little. You just might like what you discover
along the way! :}
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| A little mud along the way can sometimes help us see life so much clearer |
