The Gift of Decision

We can often find ourselves living in a world of Confusion. One in which there are days that we just feel as if the weight of the world is on our shoulders. So many decisions and questions as to how to choose what move to make next in order to make our lives complete. We can become lost in our thoughts and our fears. Its easy for us to get caught up in the making of these choices, or decisions as some of us call them. We never see how they are shaping and molding us. They actually are a form of teaching us how to live and be productive in our day to day lives. A way for us to learn from our mistakes and our victories. A sort of history lesson in the making.

Although, Its not always about the right or wrong decisions that we make. Its more about the discovery of us. Finding out what makes us tick? Finding out what we have learned from those around us who have been our mentors. How did they handle life's “DECISIONS”? What did we live and learn from those who set our examples. The tools that we are given quite definitely determine how we handle our challenges in our lives.

Now, with all this being said and discovery of what makes us.....US..I need you to think outside of the box for a moment. Think beyond ourselves and our history of our lives and our decision making skills. I want you to think of all those people, adults and children who don't come from some of the places that have good tools. Places where they fight battles that are more built on survival skills instead of daily routines. Their lives are in a place where one sometimes experiences what they call “fight or flight.” These tools are built on defense and offense. Where children learn to be adults way before they learn about having a right to make a decision. Their decisions are made more on protecting themselves from the immediate threats not so much on future threats or goals for their lives. Some of these children don't even realize that they have choices or that they can actually make decisions of who or what they want to be in their lives. They only know that their instincts tell them to protect themselves and to make the decisions that keep them and others around them safe.

Now, these are the tools that some of our children are given. These children become adults in our world who carry these tools into their futures because this way of life is the only way that they have ever known. Its what they use to make their decisions not only for themselves but they teach them to the next generation. We all share our coping skills with the next generation that follows us. Either by what our children see us do or by what we purposely teach them. The purpose of this discussion is not to judge anyone. Its more about trying to remind us that while we all are responsible for the decisions that we make, we should not judge ourselves or the person next to us so harshly on the rights or wrongs. We react to living life with the tools that we have been giving. We can learn to sharpen those tools, however; we have to first realize that making “DECISIONS” in our lives is actually a God given Gift. Once we see it as a gift then its up to us to learn to appreciate our challenges. We can all adapt and learn but its a lot easier to help someone grow in a better direction then to be the one to make them think that they are stuck where they are. Watch your words and your actions and try to become part of the solution for change. Its just very possible that if you cant see the need for the compromise and your assistance for changing the situation....then maybe your the one that needs to reconsider what tools you are actually sharing in your life...Remember, think outside the box...Life is worth living to the fullest! So live a little. You just might like what you discover along the way! :}

A little mud along the way can sometimes help us see life so much clearer