Our ways are all different

My mom always taught me to appreciate others differences. If we were all alike the world would be a boring place. Though this is a true comment sometimes differences make it hard for a few of us. I work in and out of the court system and I often see generations of our mistakes. Today I saw a loving family, present yet confused, for a court hearing where it appeared that almost all of the family thought they were on trial. Perhaps they were? Life is hard sometimes to understand because we cant read each others minds. The family was on trial for their beliefs. I am not saying that their beliefs were good or bad but what I am saying is that for the worlds standard of "Normal" they were not complete. They were not complete on how do we talk to our children about sex? How do we teach them to do as we say not as we do? There is no rule book to being a parent! Dr Spock didn't have all the answers for my parents when I was little and there still is no easy way of teaching a child right from wrong, EXCEPT for maybe, live by example. They learn what they live in so as parents we better do a good job or at least do our best. Like i said earlier, we are dealing with generations of families. All of our lives are different at home. We have no clue what actually goes on behind the walls of the neighbor's house unless we live there. What we think we see, maybe not so. So be careful before we judge anybody. Their parenting skills may not be up to the standards of "normal" because their standards of generations and societies standards are not the same. You have to teach someone better ways, but if no one is there to teach them then they do the best they can and so that becomes the family normal. In today's society with the drugs and alcohol abuse and even absent mothers and fathers we are bound to have some empty spots that need working on. The children are the ones that we need to concentrate on. They are after all our next generation. I also have to add that I know many of you are angry when DCFS shows up at your doorstep and then they keep coming back again and again but there are some workers out there who are on your side. So give these workers a chance to keep your family together or else put them back together. I saw a worker today go the extra mile to keep a child's behavior from being discussed in the courtroom and she was very respectful to all involved. She not only had the courtroom stop but she had the Judge, the child and the family in mind. There are good DCFS workers out there but we have to stay positive to what the world holds. We are all different and we have to look at each individual difference in order to make the changes needed for our children. We are different with a purpose and no it is not just to annoy some of us, well maybe just a few of us.